When was the last time you actually thanked yourself? Not your team, not your family, not your clients, but YOU?
If you’re like most women over 40, the answer is probably “never” or “I can’t remember.” We’re taught to care for everyone else first.
Our needs come last. And when we finally do something for ourselves, we feel guilty about it.
Snoop Dogg had it right when he stood on stage at an awards ceremony and said, “I want to thank myself.”
And you know what? You should too.
Meet Christie Going
Christie Going is a licensed massage therapist, reflexologist, and aromatherapist based in Houston, Texas. She’s one of my best friends and a fellow advocate for holistic wellness.
Christie specializes in helping women through reflexology, breast health work, scar treatment, and lymphatic drainage.
She runs a mobile practice serving West Houston and Northwest Houston, bringing healing work directly to women’s homes.
Connect with Christie Going:
- Website: christiegoing.com
- Super Patch: christiegoing.superpatch.com
- SendOutCards: sendoutcards.com/190010
What This Episode Is About
This conversation tackles something most women struggle with: self-care without guilt.
Christie and I get honest about why women are terrible at taking care of ourselves, how we both struggled through a 30-day fitness challenge, and why thanking yourself is one of the most powerful gratitude practices you can start today.
We also share practical tips for hydration, exercise modifications, and why the placebo effect matters more than you think.
Key Takeaways
Self-care is not selfish. Women are conditioned to care for everyone else first. Our needs come last. When we’re forced to stop and care for ourselves (illness, burnout, crisis), it feels wrong. It’s not.
Thank yourself daily. Look in the mirror and say, “I want to thank myself.” Everything good that’s ever happened in your life happened because of you. Acknowledge that.
Small gratitude practices work. You don’t need an elaborate routine. “I woke up above ground” is enough. A 3-line gratitude journal is enough. Saying “I’m fantastic” when someone asks how you are changes your mindset over time.
Real self-care includes movement. Christie and I both completed a 30-day squats and sit-ups challenge. Christie cried on day 1. We missed days. We modified exercises. The point is, we both showed up and made incremental improvements.
Hydration matters more than you think. Add pink Himalayan salt to your water for natural electrolytes. A pinch of baking soda lowers pH and improves taste. Lemon juice works too. You don’t need expensive electrolyte drinks.
Rest is required for healing. Your body can’t heal if you’re not resting. You don’t lose weight if you’re not resting. Rest isn’t lazy. It’s survival.
Belief drives results. The placebo effect has an 80% success rate. If you believe you’re going to heal, you dramatically increase your chances. Mindset matters.
Reframe obligations as opportunities. I joined a gym so I could work out with my daughter at 4am before school. I have 8 months left before she graduates. That’s not a burden. That’s time with my kid.
Prefer to watch? Catch the full conversation on YouTube.
Episode Highlights
00:00 — How Super Patch Focus, Peace, and Liberty patches help with ADHD and tension headaches
08:21 — Why self-care is difficult for women (and why we need to stop feeling guilty)
14:38 — Layering holistic modalities: reflexology, aromatherapy, sound therapy
18:52 — The placebo effect: 80% success rate when you believe in healing
21:49 — Self-gratitude practices that take less than 5 minutes
23:20 — Real talk about the 30-day squats and sit-ups challenge
32:21 — Hydration hacks: natural electrolytes without artificial sweeteners
34:52 — Snoop Dogg was right: “I want to thank myself”
Resources Mentioned
- Super Patch (Focus, Peace, Liberty patches for clarity, stress-relief, inflammation reduction)
- Gratitude Journal for non-journalers
- Planet Fitness 24-hour gym membership
- Pink Himalayan Salt for natural electrolytes
- Pomodoro Technique (25 minutes work, 5 minutes break)
- 30-Day Squats and Sit-ups Challenge via Super Patch Instagram
The Mary Kay Ash Story
When I was in my early 20s, I saw a documentary about Mary Kay Ash. The camera followed her around the office.
She walked up to an employee and asked, “How you doing today?” The woman said, “I’m just fine.”
Mary Kay stopped her and said, “You are fantastic. When someone asks you how you’re doing, you say ‘I’m fantastic.’”
I’ve been saying “I’m fantastic” for 30 years. Even when I’m not doing fantastic. Because it sets your mindset. Try it.
The 30-Day Challenge Reality
Christie and I both completed a 30-day squats and sit-ups challenge through Super Patch. Christie and both struggled at first. And we made modifications and adjustments to help.
We both missed a few days. We both posted late at night when we remembered. And we both did standing sit-ups because regular ones weren’t possible.
And you know what? We still went from 10 reps on day 1 to 30-35 reps on day 30. That’s progress. That’s showing up for yourself even when it’s hard.
Self-care doesn’t have to be perfect. It just has to be consistent enough to matter.
Hydration Hacks We Actually Use
Forget expensive electrolyte drinks with artificial sweeteners. Here’s what works:
- Pink Himalayan salt rock in your water bottle (all the electrolytes you need)
- Lemon juice for flavor and vitamin C
- Pinch of baking soda to lower pH and improve taste (doesn’t taste weird, I promise)
- Christie’s boyfriend’s recipe: tiny bit of baking soda + tiny bit of brown sugar + salt + lime juice + water (tastes like coconut water)
If your urine smells, you haven’t had enough water. That’s your body telling you to hydrate.
Your Turn
What resonated most with you in this conversation? When was the last time you thanked yourself? What are you grateful to yourself for today?
Drop a comment below or share your biggest takeaway on Instagram or LinkedIn. I’d love to continue the discussion.
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About Your Host
Kandas Rodarte is a growth coach for women solopreneurs over 40. She hosts the Gratitude Geek Podcast and co-hosts Sci-Fi Book Pod. A metastatic breast cancer thriver with 30+ years of marketing expertise, Kandas believes gratitude is a business strategy that helps women build genuine, lasting connections with clients, colleagues, and community.
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